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New book by Candace Cameron Bure causes somewhat of a controversy

Added: January 11, 2014

Recently, Candace Cameron Bure published her new book Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose. In the book she talks about how she manages to combine working, being a mother and being a wife.

Candace has been happily married to hockey player Val Bure for 17 years now. In the book she also talks about how she achieves marital success. She writes:

In the book, she writes:

"My husband is a natural born leader. I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honoring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything. I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work."

This description has led to some controversy, with some people saying that Candace brings womanhood back a 100 years.

According to Candace, who explains herself on HuffPost Live, those people have the wrong idea of what she means by 'submissive'. She used the word in the biblical definition, "So, it is meekness, it is not weakness," Candace states, "It is strength under control, it is bridled strength. And that's what I choose to have in my marriage."

The 37 year old mother of three, insists that being submissive doesn't mean she isn't given any say when it comes to major family decisions: "It doesn't mean I don't voice my opinion and it doesn't mean I don't have an opinion. I absolutely do but it is very difficult to have two heads of authority. () So within my marriage we are equal in our importance, but we are just different in our performances within our marriage."

Bure added that she always allows her husband to make the final decision on a matter, even if she doesn't agree with it. "I trust my husband, but that trust has been built," Bure said. "And I know that because I trust him and I build him up and give him the respect that he would like to have within marriage that he so listens to everything that I have to say and takes my opinion very seriously. And many of the times he will sway to what I would like, even if he doesn't see eye to eye with me because he really values my opinion."

Watch the entire video and read more on HuffPost

If you want to buy the book, you can use this link: Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose